Thursday, June 11, 2015

I see you! Te veo mi Negrita Bella!





I see you! Te veo mi Negra Linda!

I grew up loving the sound of my mother saying, ‘ven mi negrita bella’, to me. Now that I know what racism looks like and feels like both externally and internally, I reach for the tone in my mother’s voice every time I have to hear it with the tone of, and this N…

As a Black woman I have come to understand that speaking my truth in whatever tone I am using comes with the stigma of being aggressive and difficult.  I have also come to understand that other Black Latina women who have not done their work or ignore their history see me as a trigger and lean on the tone of the N word. This is my ongoing song which gets highlighted when standing before a situation where not only your gender but the color of your skin is under attack. 

I recently had a conversation with the young men of the HIS Project about the use of the N word. They were trying to explain to me why it was different when you say it with gga vs gger. We went back and forth and most came to a place of understanding my position. 

What made the difference was me sharing some of my incidents when the word in both English and Spanish comes with a negative tone. 

I shared my most recent incident with the group. I was in a convenience store in the community. The person before me was speaking to the attendant in Spanish. I then got to the counter and followed suit. As she rung up my items she kept looking at me in amazement. It was a look that I know came with wonder and negativity. I was thinking, well she has not said anything so this situation will be different from many others, too many to count. As she finished the look matched her words as she said, ‘A pero tu eres  bien Negra y hablas bien el espanol.’ I looked at her and said to myself, ‘hoy no,’ not today. 

The young men got upset because they understood the tone I was referring to. I then asked them what do you think she looked like, they called out every shade except my own or darker. When I said to them, she was my complexion they were stunned. 

To ease what they know was my pain they said, Oh Ms Yvette but you know you are so Afro centric that you confuse folks. We know, but not everyone knows or gets it. The entire conversation on the use of the word shifted for them when I shared my experience. 

When the word ‘Negra’ comes out of a Latino/a, who is clearly looking at me with the, ‘that N… tone’ it rips the rug from under me every time. I have to make the effort to regroup and pull myself back together. I then wrote in my notebook and shared on my Soulful Afro page, Momentos como estos, tengo que hablarle a los ancestors en voz alta. Y la Abuela de Ella donde esta?

As the cases of violence against Black men continue to hurt our every being let us not forget that Black women are also on the receiving end of violence.

I am not Dajerria Becton from McKinney, Texas or Tanisha Arnold and the 14 other women who have been killed during Police encounters. 

I am a Black woman when in speaking up for her rights or for those I care for, without raising my voice, or doing anything that most think would justify such an act,  been called the N word with a look that the next act will be a physical act. I have been called Negra in Spanish with the tone of ‘esta N... quien cree que es.’ That lands like a jab on the heart.

The stereotypes directed at us are real in all the spaces we stand in. We constantly have to defend ourselves. To see folks reach for all those stigmas that are directed at us when the police officer was overusing force in the McKinney case was almost like hearing them say, That N… Esa Negra! 

Now with twitter we can create hash tags and have everyone jump on the bandwagon but that hash tag has been alive and kicking for me and many of my sisters for years. We have been saying MY Life Matters as does, all our lives.  When we are greeting each other at the beginning of a meeting we say, ‘I see you’ because we know most of the time, most do not see us. 

Let us pause and not re victimize the victims of this violence. Let us have the courage as the young men of the HIS Project did to see a truth that they are not taught outside of this space. Let us remember the victims of violence. Let us be courageous enough to say, she should not be thrown down on the ground in such a violent way, PERIOD.

In a few weeks I will be joining over 200+ women at Cumbre de Lideresas Afrodescendientes de las Americas/ Summit of Afrodescendent Women of the Americas. I look forward to saying out loud, I see you, Te veo mi Negra bella, with the loving tone that was directed at me by my mother. 

Being a Black Latina woman who does not hide her love for her Africanness, her Blackness has not been an easy journey. What I share here is nothing in comparison to what I deal with most days. I get to write about it, talk about but I want to remind you that many of us do not have that opportunity so when you read this, think of them.

Our cry is also we are human beings and we deserve to be treated as such when you reach for the N word or Negra as if we are less than, remember that.

To my sister, my hermanas, I see you every day, yo te veo todos los dias, mi Negrita bella.

In light and love,
Yvette



Monday, June 1, 2015

15 years in the Light of a Humble Lion-Panama- Etnia Negra

15 years in the Light of a Humble Lion

Panama- Etnia Negra

"It is important to know that you are walking in the footsteps of lions." These were the words of Baba Askia as he spoke to students rallying for their professors and the Africana Studies Department at UMass Boston. 

These words resonate as we celebrate 15 years of the law that recognizes and honors the plight of people of African descent in Panama. I walk closely in the light of a humble lion that fought diligently for the recognition of our people and our community. Since I met him and he took me under his caring wings, we have had a tradition to reflect on his journey. 

‘We were not dropped off as a whole family. Every Afro descendent should be seen as a family member.’ Mr. Richards said this to me many years ago. I move through this journey with the sound of his clear voice and the knowing of his long fight to bring Black Ethnicity Day to Panama. His patience and resiliency are noticeable but his humble light shines brighter as I sit in awe of his knowledge and wisdom. Today, as we close out this special month for Panama and for Afro Panamanians, I say Thank you Mr. Richards. Gracias, for your words and for allowing me to walk in your light. Your humble lion spirit are a guiding force and a reminder of purpose. 

To my Panamanian familia, may we continue on a path of full inclusion. To my Afro Panamanian family, may we continue to uplift the light of our ancestors, speak our truth and wear our birth given crown. To my Colon family, my wish is that we pause before the mirror to see the beauty in who we are as a people, that we will see that we are a crucial part of the fabric of Panama and that we step into our birth given light to shine. Proud today and everyday to be Afro Panamanian.!

Alaafia, Blessings, Much Love
Yvette